Submit a Question

Got a career question you wouldn't ask out loud?

Ask it here. I'll answer it on the show. Anonymously, if you want.

The best questions on The Defiant Career come from women dealing with something they can't talk about openly — a manager who's making their job impossible, a workplace that's quietly draining them, a career decision they can't run by anyone in their actual life. If that's you, this is the place. Tell me what's going on. I'll answer it on a future episode, and I'll keep you anonymous unless you tell me otherwise.

Your question becomes the episode.

Most career advice treats your career as one problem and your life — your partnership, your family, your faith, your health — as a separate one. The Defiant Career is built differently. It treats career and life as the same problem — because every major life decision is a career decision, and every major career decision is a life decision.

That means the questions I answer here aren't only about work. They're about the choices that shape your career from the outside — relationships, family planning, caregiving, health, faith, income. The compliant strategy doesn't talk about any of that. We do.

Your question doesn't just get answered. It shapes the show. When the same question shows up from five different women in five different industries, it becomes a whole episode — sometimes a whole framework.

The kinds of questions I'm looking for

I can't answer every question, but I read every one. These are the kinds I'm most likely to take on for an episode:

A specific career decision you're trying to make and the tradeoffs you're weighing
A life decision — relationship, family timing, caregiving, health, money — that you know is going to shape your career, and you can't think it through with anyone in your actual life
A workplace situation you're navigating that you can't talk through openly
A piece of advice you keep getting that doesn't sit right, and you want a counter-perspective
A pattern you're noticing in your own career or your relationships that you can't quite name yet
A question about applying the Defiant Career Strategy to your specific situation

Specific beats general. “How do I decide whether to have a third child during a promotion year?” is a better question than “How do I balance career and family?”

Your name stays yours.

By default, I read questions anonymously on the show. I'll describe the situation — the industry, the role, the dynamic — without ever naming you or sharing anything that could identify you. If you want to be credited by first name, you can tell me in the question itself. Otherwise, your name and email stay with me, and only with me.

I'll never share your email. I'll never sell it. The only reason I ask for it is so I can let you know if and when your question is answered on the show.

Send me your question.

Take as much space as you need in the question field. Longer questions with real context get answered more often than short ones.